Because of people like Disneylanders, life, at times, can be unnerving. Who is the real deal? Who can you really count on? Who is sincere and really means everything they say? It feels like a traffic jam of the mind to learn that some people pretend to enjoy your company — most of us prefer spending time with those who really do. Since Disneylanders hold their cards tightly to their chest, you can still spot them if you note their always pleasant demeanor, their resistance to hearing non-sugar-coated revelations, and their lack of reciprocity. They will never ever seek you out for any reason unless there is something in it for them. And there could always be something they want or need from you, so they’ll never burn the bridge.
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If You Want to Better Understand Women, Read This.
Men say they don’t understand women and Dr. Becky Whetstone explains what they need to know. The question is, can they do it?
27 Ridiculous Ways People Sabotage Their Relationships
How single people can stop self-sabotage and get what they want. by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. For years I was a fool in relationships. If I was interested, I’d pretend to enjoy experiences I didn’t; became who I thought whatever guy wanted me to be, and kept my mouth shut when I vehemently disagreed with something Read More
If You Want to Keep your Relationship, Stop Doing These Three Things Now.
Adults have self-discipline and control themselves. If you want to have great relationships, you have to grow up. Doctor Becky shows you how.
It may be your fault that your life and relationships aren’t working.
It may be your fault that your life and relationships aren’t working. If your life isn’t working it is probably bet to look in the mirror rather than blame others. by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. Although we all do our best to live in a world of equality and hearing both sides of a story before making a Read More
Empathize today or lose your relationship tomorrow.
Just about every adult knows that the characteristic described as empathy is a desirable trait. Without it, interactions between two people become very problematic, as I see weekly in my marriage therapy practice, with at least 50 percent of the couples I work with, at some point, declaring, “(Insert partner’s name here) has NO empathy.” Read More
What creates a relationship that will last the long-term.
by Becky Whtestone, Ph.D. Every Marriage and Family Therapist is familiar with Dr. John Gottman’s theory of the Sound Relationship House, the seven things that fortify a relationship and make a marriage strong. Gottman has done so much research on what makes great marriages and what predicts divorce, by studying, testing and interviewing thousands of Read More
Overlooked and ignored relationship issues are often the most important.
Note: Brittany Wong, editor of the Huffington Post divorce page asked me what are some commonly overlooked issues that affect relationships negatively, and I knew immediately what my answer would be. I sent her my comments for an article she is writing on the subject, but as usual I wrote an entire article myself … Read More
Too Many Know Nothing About Having Healthy Relationships
Very few adults know a thing about how to have healthy relationships, and I’m sick and tired of it. Seriously, too many people are lonely, miserable, insecure, fearful, depressed, anxious and low on self esteem and confidence, they’re have difficulty functioning, and you know what they’re doing? Dating, getting married, and having babies! Like a Read More