Why Are Some People So Damn Sensitive?
Dysregulation: Behaviors that Create Misery for Everyone.
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Coaching | codependence | Communication | Counseling & Resources | Growing, healing, trusting | self advocacy | Self care | Uncategorized
How Pia Mellody and Terry Real Transformed My Life, My Healing, and My Therapy Practice
When I look back over my career and personal healing journey, two names stand out as absolute game changers: the late Pia Mellody and the ever-thriving and prolific Terry Real. They are mental health, relationship, and trauma professionals, and their teachings didn’t just influence how I work with clients — they completely transformed how I see myself, relationships, and what it means to love myself and others in a healthy, adult way.
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Affairs | Blog | Coaching | codependence | Divorce and post-divorce | Family issues | Marriage & Marriage Crisis | Marriage Management | Mental Health | Relationship management | relationships | Separation | The Decision to Divorce
Your Spouse May Be Planning to Divorce You — And You Don’t Know It
Right now, your spouse could be sitting next to you on the couch, planning to divorce you. She may be planning to do it in the fall, after the holidays, or in a couple of years. I know this because I have spoken with hundreds and hundreds of people in that mindset, and I have been in that mindset myself.
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Career issues | Career relationships | childhood trauma | codependence | Counseling & Resources | Growing, healing, trusting | Mental Health | relationships | self advocacy | Self care | Uncategorized
Is the Landmark Forum a Cult or one of the Greatest Personal Growth Seminars on the Planet?
It is with some trepidation that I reveal the third most significant influence in helping me grow and evolve: The Landmark Forum, a three-day intensive seminar dedicated to personal growth that was developed in the 1990s. I hesitate, because it catapulted me to a different level in terms of courage, self-confidence, and finding my purpose, but it has a negative aspect to it as well – high-pressure sales tactics that give it a well-deserved sleazy reputation, and that leads critics to wonder if it is a cult.
It is not a cult, and I highly recommend it for those who are curious, resilient, self-reflective, and ready for bold changes. I tell everyone I talk to about it that you must approach it with the attitude of accepting the gift it offers, while not succumbing to the pressure and sometimes unreasonable requests it makes of participants. I’ll explain more a little later.
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The Two Kinds of Change: One is Temporary, the Other Permanent.
Why Some Transformations Last — and Others Don’t Can people really change? That is the question so many of my clients have…
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Why Controlling People Don’t Know They’re Controlling.
Expectations of one adult to another are an enormous waste of time, as is wishing the person was different than what they are, but controlling partners are usually full of them. Think about how completely ridiculous it is: I have a variety of rules and guidelines in my head that I expect you to follow, or I’ll be mad at you. Who in the heck do these people think they are?
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Doing Couple’s Therapy With a Narcissist.
Therapy is always worth a try and can help with decision-making. by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. A few years ago, I went to…
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What Control is, and How to Stop it.
How to take your life back from a control freak. Note: To never miss a Doctor Becky blog, go to https://medium.com/@doctorbecky and…
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Why the Words Selfish and Selfless Need to Removed from the English Language.
The American culture has dysfunctional beliefs and values that affect and injure us all, and two that have especially limited people’s ability to thrive are the toxin-packed adjectives selfless and selfish. Our society perpetuates the idea that individuals of highest character are those who are selfless, doing absolutely nothing for themselves, and the lowest form, the selfish, because they do. Another word that can go away while we’re at it, is deserve.
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How The World Screws Us Up
by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. A therapist’s life can be complicated. We go to school and intern for years, we study, write and…
