The Hidden Reason Couples Can’t Communicate: Their Nervous Systems.
Most couples think they have a communication problem. In reality, their nervous systems are reacting to old emotional wounds.
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Is My Marriage Over? Or Are We Going Through A Very Bad Time?
Introducing the advice column, Ask Becky Landers. Becky Landers, advice columnist. I always wanted to be an advice columnist, and my early life goal was
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Career relationships | Communication | Divorce and post-divorce | Relationship management | relationships | self advocacy | Self care
Your Marriage is a Partnership.
People fall in love and get married. But does anyone think about the fact that marriage is also a business agreement, in which two people decide to form a legally binding union or partnership that can only be undone through the legal system?
I think about this a lot because I work with many people who are considering divorce or are in the process of getting one. Time and again, the partner who makes the majority of the money bitterly laments that they may have to fork over a significant portion of what they have made if they go the divorce route.
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Affairs | Blog | Coaching | codependence | Divorce and post-divorce | Family issues | Marriage & Marriage Crisis | Marriage Management | Mental Health | Relationship management | relationships | Separation | The Decision to Divorce
Your Spouse May Be Planning to Divorce You — And You Don’t Know It
Right now, your spouse could be sitting next to you on the couch, planning to divorce you. She may be planning to do it in the fall, after the holidays, or in a couple of years. I know this because I have spoken with hundreds and hundreds of people in that mindset, and I have been in that mindset myself.
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Affairs | Blog | Divorce and post-divorce | marriage | Marriage & Marriage Crisis | Marriage Management | Relationship management | relationships | Separation | The Decision to Divorce
5 Invisible Signs a Marriage Is Dying (Most Couples Miss Them).
Most marriages don’t collapse overnight. Marriage therapist and crisis specialist Becky Whetstone explains the subtle signs a marriage is dying long before divorce is ever mentioned.
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When Dad Tried to Save a Marriage From Divorce and the Couple Died.
How Qualified Marriage Help Can Be a Matter of Life and Death. If you are having marriage troubles, the gurus will vie…
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Divorce and post-divorce | Family issues | marriage | Marriage & Marriage Crisis | Marriage Management | Relationship management | Uncategorized
Divorce Trauma is Certain. You Can Make it Less So.
There will be pain and suffering if you divorce, and it will have a ripple effect on your family, friends, and other areas of your life. Still, there are ways to decrease stress and trauma.
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Affairs | Dating, Remarriage, Blended Families | Divorce and post-divorce | Family issues | Marriage & Marriage Crisis | Relationship management | relationships | Self care | Separation
Don’t Date Your Ex’s New Spouse’s Ex and Other Good Ideas.
Some things in life are unspoken rules. I don’t know if people tell us not to do these things or if our common sense does. One of the rules is not to date your best friend’s ex unless you have spoken with them about it and gotten their blessing, or any close friend, for that matter. Others are don’t cut in line, don’t stand too close, don’t talk about your bodily functions, don’t talk about your life miseries and ailments on a first date, let people exit before you enter, don’t touch other people’s things, leave things as you found them, and on and on. We do these things because we are 8 billion people on one planet, and we have to all get along. Considering other people’s feelings and sensibilities before acting is a good and excellent thing and the best way for you to get along in this world, too.
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Dating, Remarriage, Blended Families | Divorce and post-divorce | Marriage & Marriage Crisis | relationships | Single life | The Decision to Divorce
The Divorce Stories We Tell Are Based in Fiction.
People will tell their stories however they will; we can do nothing about it. There is no need to defend, beg them not to, or go around trying to correct their verbal messes. Stop trying to create a perfect world where all injustices are solved, and everything is wrapped up in a bow. The only sane approach is to leave it alone, live your own life, and let it pass. Everyone but a Buddhist monk loves the drama of short and nasty divorce stories; it’s human nature, but the good news is that people who hear them will think about it for maybe fifteen seconds and never again. It simply is not the big deal you may think it is when someone speaks about you being a shrew or bastard from hell.
