How to Get Rid of Resentment and Never Feel It Again.
How Resentment is a Me Problem, and Not a We Problem. Having resentment is a sign that you have a problem, not the other person. Even when people are
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Start Setting Boundaries With Others or Be Miserable.
Boundaries Make Us Happy, and Other People Miserable. This woman is learning to set boundaries. She’ll get pushback, but you have to accept that part of
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The Hidden Reason Couples Can’t Communicate: Their Nervous Systems.
Most couples think they have a communication problem. In reality, their nervous systems are reacting to old emotional wounds.
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Is My Marriage Over? Or Are We Going Through A Very Bad Time?
Introducing the advice column, Ask Becky Landers. Becky Landers, advice columnist. I always wanted to be an advice columnist, and my early life goal was
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What Everyone Needs to Know About Successful Marriage Therapy
And why some people will never be helped by any therapist. What makes marriage therapy successful? Does it solely depend on the…
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Spurs v. Knicks: Sore Winners, Sore Losers, and Why People Finger-Point
What a brutal NBA Finals loss is teaching me about how people handle defeat — on the court, and in a marriage….
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Gamma Brain: Why Your Partner Snaps When You Interrupt Them
No, (in this instance), your partner is probably not an impatient asshole. I consider myself a hard-working woman, and I do it…
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Your Spouse May Be Planning to Divorce You — And You Don’t Know It
Right now, your spouse could be sitting next to you on the couch, planning to divorce you. She may be planning to do it in the fall, after the holidays, or in a couple of years. I know this because I have spoken with hundreds and hundreds of people in that mindset, and I have been in that mindset myself.
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Affairs | Blog | Marriage & Marriage Crisis | Marriage Management | Reconciliation | Relationship management | relationships
Managed Separation: Why Most Trial Separations End in Divorce.
conditioned them to. It’s just what you do. Well, not anymore.
Today I am crying, screaming, and yelling from the rooftops – tell yourself and all of your friends, if you have a marriage crisis, there is excellent, high-quality, research-based information curated by a person with a doctorate in marriage and family therapy. It’s uncomfortable to toot my own academic horn, but I am doing it here to underline that this is no fly-by night or quick-fix sham designed for you to pay a fee and get suckered, it is legitimate, solid, best practices information for couples in crisis. -
The 8 Stages of Marriage.
Long-term marriages are not sustained by luck or compatibility alone.
They are sustained by the ability to:
• adapt to change
• tolerate differences
• repair after conflict
• grow emotionally over time
• shift from control to acceptanceThe couples who last are not the ones who avoid difficulty.
They are the ones who develop the capacity to handle it.
