Friend,
You are probably looking for someone who knows what they’re doing to help you with your marriage crisis. I get it. I couldn’t find that person when I was in my marriage crisis in 1993. I wasn’t a marriage therapist then, but 8 years later, I went to graduate school and quickly learned that marriage therapists are not trained in marriage crises. I saw this as a failure of the profession I love, preparing marriage therapists for all stages of a marriage, especially when things are rocky.
I made it my business to research the topic whenever I got the chance and to devote my dissertation to it. What I found was nothing short of stunning. Amazing, high-quality research and information by respected scholars in the field of marriage research, yet no one knew about it unless they went looking for it. I vowed to create a way to get that information out there and to help couples in crisis fill that void in marriage therapy training, and set out to do so when I graduated in 2006.
Since then, I have worked with thousands of couples, written a book called I (Think) I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage, and written over 200 blogs (and counting!) about everything I know about healthy relationships.
I have devised a way to manage a marriage crisis because it is a unique phenomenon that requires knowledgeable professional oversight, or the chances of healthy recovery are close to nil. For couples who know they want to divorce, I oversee an amicable divorce process. And for those needing co-parenting plans and assistance, or post-divorce blended family training, I do that as well. My goal is to take the nastiness out of marriage and family events that, in the past, have destroyed relationships.
I have (very unexpectedly!) devoted my life to helping couples in crisis. If we work together, I will give you my all. If you are willing to work, too, it’s amazing what we can achieve.
It’s easy to make an appointment. All you have to do is choose the service you want, find a time on the calendar that is available, select it, and pay. The Zoom video link will appear in your calendar. On the day of the appointment, click it, and we’ll get started.
See you soon!
Dr. Becky Whetstone
Note: Becky is an Amazon affiliate, and if you buy her book through the link provided, she may receive a small fee at no extra cost to you. Also, on the testimonial below, we changed some identifying details and used a stock photo to protect the client’s confidentiality.
Dive into Marriage Crisis management to Make Wise and intelligent Decisions for Your Family:
Reduce mistakes
Managing your marriage crisis yourself is a fool’s game. There is so much to know, and you will need professional, experienced, and knowledgeable guidance. The stakes are high.
Slow Things Down.
You may feel a sense of urgency to make a decision or move things forward, but the best strategy is to slow things down and stabilize your situation. Don’t do this alone.
Make healthy decisions.
We will coach you on making the wisest decisions for you and your family. We will guide you to access your best selves during one of life’s most difficult times. We remove the fear and nastiness and give couples the confidence that their crisis is being overseen by people who care about the best outcome for their family.
Our model of working with couples is designed to get results. We know you have probably already tried other things that weren’t effective for you. Most couples tell us the present moment is the end of the line; they either get forward movement, or they are at the end of the marriage. This is why Becky does not rely on traditional marriage therapy theories for marriage crises … her model is directive, educational, and addresses trauma and healing. It is more like going to school to learn about marriage, the work involved, healing, self-care, and more. It is a holistic approach that seeks root-level healing and permanent growth and change. We will not waste time, but the end result depends on how hard a person works in this process.
Below are several appointment options. If you are in a marriage crisis and are not sure what to do, make an appointment for a 90-minute Marriage Crisis consultation. This is the gateway to everything else. The way it works is:
- Marriage Crisis Consultation.
- If we are a fit, Becky will send you a proposal for a minimum two-month intensive, all-in, do-or-die program. She designs each one specifically for each couple, and they range from $5000 to $8000. This type of intensity and focus is necessary to get the results we are looking for.
- We will begin the onboarding process immediately.
- In some cases, she recommends an energy-healing specialist to work with you during the process.
Radically Positive Amicable Divorce and Co-parenting Plan
For those who are certain they want an amicable divorce but have no idea how to do it, we offer a 6-month Radically Positive Amicable Divorce & Co-parenting Plan that involves working with Becky to end your marriage. Family lawyers will never be hired. Becky guides you through most of the negotiations, and the complicated or unresolved issues are referred to collaborative lawyers toward the end, who will guide a couple through the mediation process. This process works, and couples tell us time and again how grateful they are for it. Here is how to get started.
- Schedule a 90-minute Radically Positive Amicable Divorce Consultation.
- If we are a fit, you will purchase the 6-month Radically Positive Amicable Divorce and Co-parenting Plan below.
- We will begin onboarding immediately and planning the process.
“Just Do it.”
“We had tried everything else we could think of to help our marriage, and nothing got us very far, and we’d fall back into old patterns; we were stuck. We were about ready to throw in the towel if this didn’t work. I can honestly say Becky Whetstone is not like any therapist/coach we’ve ever worked with, and she saved our family from divorce – thanks, Becky!”
90 Minute Marriage Crisis Consultation
The best place to start for couples in crisis. Meet with Becky for 90 minutes. She will tell you what she thinks you should do. If we are a fit, we move to a tailor-made program and intervention focused on intense, all-in movement forward.
$495 (Space limited.)
One Month of VIP Therapy for Individuals or Couples
One month VIP Therapy for couples or individuals. One 90-minute session and four 60-minute sessions in 30 days. Once daily Voxer messaging and ongoing access with Becky Whetstone.
$1600. (Price applies to the first month only)
60-Minute Session for Couples
If you need extra sessions with Becky, have finished your core work with her, and want to return for a tune-up, or just want to sort a thing or two out, this is a great choice.
Note: We do not recommend once-a-week therapy with no other add-ons for couples in crisis.
$399
One Hour Individual Appointment
People in a marriage crisis are freaking out. If your spouse won’t come in with you, you want to talk about leaving or staying, or if you want to visit before bringing them in, this is the place for you.
$315
911 Emergency Session
It’s a fact that the onset of a marriage crisis is a very frightening thing. Some people want and need expert information and insight right away. Becky understands this and created the 911 appointment for those who feel they can’t wait. Availability is usually within 24-hours, and it’s the only option where you can see Becky on the weekend.
$495
Half-Day Mini Marathon Session
One month of therapy packed into a four-hour time period. We will do an intake, two separate sessions with each spouse, then one final session together to receive feedback from Becky, suggestions for moving forward, and time spent working on something that will help you immediately in your relationship. Note: We do take mini-breaks throughout the 4 hours.
$1500.
The Best Option for Marriage Crisis
I developed my two-month all-in, super-focused marriage crisis management program to get results. For couples in crisis, two months of professional, experienced, focused, and frequent oversight from the person who created this intervention and wrote a book about it is the smartest thing you can do for your family when the marriage is on the line. It includes a minimum of 13 one-hour sessions together, a marriage crisis management plan, a custody calendar, education, and an analysis of your marriage dynamic and the steps needed to repair it. Unlimited Voxer messaging access 7 days a week with Becky (The secret sauce and game-changer). We can accommodate only 10 couples at a time, and we are very close to reaching capacity.
Our advice: Don’t hire a family lawyer if you want an amicable divorce and a positive co-parenting experience.
I work with couples to achieve an amicable parting, and I know it can be done. This plan means you will never hire family lawyers; you will work with Becky, a family therapist who cares about family outcomes, to negotiate most everything, then take the complicated issues and things you can’t agree on to collaborative lawyers at the end, who will guide you through mediation. This plan includes six months of radically positive amicable divorce oversight, the documents you will need to achieve it – a property settlement spreadsheet, custody plans, the Radically Amicable divorce plan, the co-parenting plan, two 90-minute meetings per month (18 hours over 6 months) with Becky to negotiate terms, and continuous daily Voxer messaging access.
We looked for someone to help us help calm the nervous systems of the people we work with, and we found her.
A deeply immersive two-month energy healing experience held alongside your work with Becky. While Becky guides your strategy and decisions, Kristen works beneath the surface — clearing the stored emotional charge, outdated survival patterns, and nervous system dysregulation that keep you flooded, reactive, and unable to hear each other.
What unfolds is profound. When the emotional charge clears, your capacity to navigate this chapter expands and most couples feel a shift after just one session.
What’s included each month:
- One individual energy healing session per person
- One joint session together
- Six sessions total over two months
$3000 (payment plans available)
(Kristen will contact you to get started upon purchase)
The Nicest Thing You Can Do for Us After Reading Becky’s book is to write a Book Review.
Readers looking for solid, research-based information in a marriage crisis rely on past readers’ comments and endorsements. If you have read becky’s book and found it a valuable resource, we would appreciate you writing a review – thanks in advance!
Here is the Amazon link to purchase the book. After you’ve read it, please return to this page, scroll down to the reviews, and tell the world what you think!!! We are grateful for your support!!