Gamma Brain: Why Your Partner Snaps When You Interrupt Them
No, (in this instance), your partner is probably not an impatient asshole. I consider myself a hard-working woman, and I do it…
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Career relationships | Communication | Divorce and post-divorce | Relationship management | relationships | self advocacy | Self care
Your Marriage is a Partnership.
People fall in love and get married. But does anyone think about the fact that marriage is also a business agreement, in which two people decide to form a legally binding union or partnership that can only be undone through the legal system?
I think about this a lot because I work with many people who are considering divorce or are in the process of getting one. Time and again, the partner who makes the majority of the money bitterly laments that they may have to fork over a significant portion of what they have made if they go the divorce route.
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Coaching | codependence | Communication | Counseling & Resources | Growing, healing, trusting | self advocacy | Self care | Uncategorized
How Pia Mellody and Terry Real Transformed My Life, My Healing, and My Therapy Practice
When I look back over my career and personal healing journey, two names stand out as absolute game changers: the late Pia Mellody and the ever-thriving and prolific Terry Real. They are mental health, relationship, and trauma professionals, and their teachings didn’t just influence how I work with clients — they completely transformed how I see myself, relationships, and what it means to love myself and others in a healthy, adult way.
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Communication | marriage | Marriage Management | Mental Health | Relationship management | relationships | Self care
Just Because Your Brain Coupled Two Things Together Doesn’t Mean They Belong Together
One of the most important things I teach my clients has nothing to do with communication, conflict resolution, or childhood wounds. It has to do with how the human brain creates meaning — how we perceive information, and whether what we perceive is accurate, or even close to reality.
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How to Complain to Your Partner Without Damaging Your Relationship.
People love to bitch, gripe, and complain, and most never learn how to do it in a way that can actually be heard. When I say heard, I mean delivered in a way that a partner can calmly and respectfully receive and respond to what is being said. It’s all in the timing, tone, and delivery of the message as to whether your words will be taken seriously and get the response you desire.
Surely all of us have experienced delivering a complaint in a way that got either zero response, an eyeroll, a laugh, repudiation, or a defensive diatribe that told us that getting anywhere with the person was not possible, at least in this moment. When people tell me they can’t communicate, this is what is happening, pure and simple.
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Talking and Listening Boundaries, the Key to Healthy Communication.
To be heard, learn effective talking and listening skills. by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. Sandra said that she took her husband’s lack of…
