There’s always a little bit of “this” in every holiday season! The Holidays and Relationships … by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. Well, the holidays are here again and finances, family, food, rituals and raking leaves are on the mind. Some of these things are comforting and wonderful, and other things are — uh — not. Since I’ve been around a long time, Read More
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Family Relations in a Digital World
Family Relations in a Digital World Recently a couple who’ve been together four years and are now separated came in for an assessment, and the girlfriend had her arms crossed and was glaring at him out the corner of her eye. ”I’ll be thinking everything is wonderful in our relationship, and then he’ll send me a Read More
Power struggles: What to do if one spouse is more successful than the other.
Power struggles: What to do if one spouse is more successful than the other. Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Google+ Share on Pinterest Put two people in a room and they’re going to compare themselves to one another other — that’s what humans do. The same is true of two people who are married, each Read More
If divorce is unavoidable, here’s how to do it right.
I hate divorce. It’s extremely painful for everyone and leaves many lifelong ugly footprints in so many lives that I’ll do whatever I can to get people to stay together in a healthy way. Still, there are times when there just any fuel left to work on remaining together, and couples decided to divorce. Usually, Read More
Should I go to therapy alone if my spouse won’t go?
Note: This post was inspired by Huffington Post Divorce Editor Brittany Wong who asked me this question for an article she is writing. I sat down, thought about it, and here is the result … I think it is great info … hope you like it! It happens all the time. A potential client calls Read More
Things never to say to your wife …
Note: This article was inspired byBrittany Wong, editor of the Huffington Post Divorce Section, who asked me to provide her some comments for the article she was writing. Check out my take on it below, and check out the result of her article here. Common sense says that in a relationship with someone, the bar Read More
Therapy dropouts often flunk marriage and relationships, too.
One of the biggest mistakes couple’s make in therapy is to come to the first session, leave feeling validated and hopeful, only to find that one partner is still screwing up and doing stupid things. The offended partner gets angry, says something like, “See, I knew you’d never change!” Then they pick up the phone Read More