How to take your life back from a control freak. Note: To never miss a Doctor Becky blog, go to https://medium.com/@doctorbecky and press follow. One day long ago, someone decided it was the right thing to tell another person what to do, and in that moment a precedent was set that would make millions of Read More
relationships
Who Had an Affair or Who Files For Divorce Reveals Nothing.
Placing fault in marriage and divorce is a fool’s game. Years ago, I became friends with a woman who was divorcing a famous movie star. Her divorce was covered in the local paper gossip column, and the question came up as to why she would ever leave such a successful and wealthy man, someone she Read More
If You’re Thinking of Leaving Your Spouse, Read This ….
Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. You’ve been unhappy in your relationship for a long time. You can taste the idea of freedom, focusing on your own needs, a new start. How can you walk away and not cause much damage? You sit on the porch pondering what it would be like to leave after so many years Read More
Why is it So Hard to Divorce Your Toxic Biological Family?
“Toxic relationships bring out the worst in you.” — Anonymous Families fighting one another happens every day, in every corner of the world … celebrities, royal families, billionaires, people like you and me — no one is immune. In my experience as a family therapist, it’s one of the most common emotional and mental health Read More
If Your Spouse Wants Out, Do This ….
If your spouse wants to leave you there are things you can do that are intelligent and helpful. The important thing is not to make any mistakes.
What my Four Marriages Have Taught Me — by a Marriage Therapist.
Lessons a marriage therapist has learned from her three divorces and once successful marriage.
What A Family Therapist Says the Royal Family Must do to Manage the Harry and Meghan Crisis.
If you are born a royal, you are raised, or brainwashed, to endure your role, and to see being royal as a duty and privilege bestowed on your family. But imagine the shock of the experience for those who were not raised that way, who are accustomed to being independent, and then enter a world where you are told to step in line and follow ancient, dysfunctional rules and customs and embrace a lifestyle that says some humans are more highly ranked than others, then suffer the scrutiny of all that being a difficult transition.
Emergency Advice for Cheaters Who Just Got Caught.
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Stop Bitching and Tell People What You Need
When you figure out what is driving your mood, then ask yourself what you need. When I do the inquiry with myself, the thing I need is often something I can do for myself. For example, if I am exhausted, I may need to clear some space for rest. The important thing is, once you figure out what it is, create an action plan to take care of it. If it has to do with something that my partner is doing or not doing, I find a good time to talk with him, and then proceed with the questions (see below). This process is called self-care, and it’s the most important thing there is. It is the front door to mental and emotional health.
Fear of losing the guy syndrome: Should I have sex if I am really not ready to?
In a budding relationship, women set the boundaries on what will and will not take place. Fear of losing the guy syndrome: Should I have sex if I am really not ready to? by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. A blog reader recently sent me this: “I read about your Rules for Romantic Self-Protection advice on your web site’s Read More