Just about every adult knows that the characteristic described as empathy is a desirable trait. Without it, interactions between two people become very problematic, as I see weekly in my marriage therapy practice, with at least 50 percent of the couples I work with, at some point, declaring, “(Insert partner’s name here) has NO empathy.” Read More
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Why getting dumped (when you’re single) is a good thing.
My office carpet has gotten wet many times with the tears of single men and women in the throes of intense pain felt from romantic rejection, usually asking, “What is wrong with me? Why didn’t they like me? What did I do wrong?” It always pains me to see good people blaming a break up Read More
Power struggles: What to do if one spouse is more successful than the other.
Power struggles: What to do if one spouse is more successful than the other. Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Google+ Share on Pinterest Put two people in a room and they’re going to compare themselves to one another other — that’s what humans do. The same is true of two people who are married, each Read More
Therapy dropouts often flunk marriage and relationships, too.
One of the biggest mistakes couple’s make in therapy is to come to the first session, leave feeling validated and hopeful, only to find that one partner is still screwing up and doing stupid things. The offended partner gets angry, says something like, “See, I knew you’d never change!” Then they pick up the phone Read More
Marriage Therapist Married Four Times Counts her Blessings
by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. I am a Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in helping people through the darkest days of their relationships, and I’m very passionate about it. I think that’s because I’ve been married four times and have faced many of the marital scenarios my clients face. Having been married four times is Read More