Lessons a marriage therapist has learned from her three divorces and once successful marriage.
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Being relational: Few do it – everyone needs to know how.
Mike refused to speak to his wife Laura for weeks at a time, and by the time she dragged him to my office she was at her wit’s end: “What do I do if he refuses to speak to me?” They told me their issues, which weren’t that complicated or major, but could not be Read More
Why you shouldn’t marry more than once.
The divorce rate for second marriages is estimated to be around 65 percent – significantly higher than that of first marriages. There are numerous reasons why second-timers have a harder time, such as personal baggage carried in from other relationships, whether to have a pre-nuptial agreement, how and whether to meld long-established belongings like businesses, Read More
How To Tell Your Children You’re Getting A Divorce
Guest blogger Tim Backes of CustodyXchange.com specializes in assisting divorced and separated couples as well as legal professionals and making their lives a little less hectic when it comes to the painful process of separation and communication. In this article Tim shares some great advice on how to talk to your kids about the family’s Read More
Holiday wars damage Marriage Town
Holidays are difficult for families because of all the things we plan and how they clash with what other people want and plan. Then, show up to family events and throw in the personalities of people who have no filter with the people that do, and you have holiday wars. For the people who want Read More
Divorce prevention alert: Know now what you’re going to wish you knew later.
When a spouse pleads with their mate to go to marriage counseling, you can bet they’re frustrated – trust me, people don’t just ask their partner to go to counseling if they’re only a little annoyed. Instead, when your partner says, ‘Hey, can we go to marriage counseling?’ it’s pretty indicative that they’ve already made Read More
Has your wife has checked out of your marriage?
Roger is 45 and called to make an appointment. “My wife has changed overnight,” he says. “And she won’t come in to therapy. Help me, what should I do?” As an experienced marriage therapist, I’m thinking, “She might be having an affair,” and when I ask the husband if she is, he says, “I really Read More
Power struggles: What to do if one spouse is more successful than the other.
Put two people in a room and they’re going to compare themselves to one another other – that’s what humans do. The same is true of two people who are married, each looks at the other and decides who’s the best, the strongest, smartest, nicest, who does the most – ugh – power struggles are Read More
If divorce is unavoidable, here’s how to do it right.
I hate divorce. It’s extremely painful for everyone and leaves many lifelong ugly footprints in so many lives that I’ll do whatever I can to get people to stay together in a healthy way. Still, there are times when there just any fuel left to work on remaining together, and couples decided to divorce. Usually, Read More
Overlooked and ignored relationship issues are often the most important.
Note: Brittany Wong, editor of the Huffington Post divorce page asked me what are some commonly overlooked issues that affect relationships negatively, and I knew immediately what my answer would be. I sent her my comments for an article she is writing on the subject, but as usual I wrote an entire article myself … Read More