Note: This post was inspired by Huffington Post Divorce Editor Brittany Wong who asked me this question for an article she is writing. I sat down, thought about it, and here is the result … I think it is great info … hope you like it! It happens all the time. A potential client calls Read More
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Things never to say to your wife …
Note: This article was inspired byBrittany Wong, editor of the Huffington Post Divorce Section, who asked me to provide her some comments for the article she was writing. Check out my take on it below, and check out the result of her article here. Common sense says that in a relationship with someone, the bar Read More
Things you should never say to your man …
Note: I love it when Brittany Wong, an editor with the Huffington Post Divorce section emails and asks me to write something for her on a certain subject. She’s usually polling several therapists and usually needs only a few comments, but her requests always get me thinking and I end up making a whole blog Read More
Therapy dropouts often flunk marriage and relationships, too.
One of the biggest mistakes couple’s make in therapy is to come to the first session, leave feeling validated and hopeful, only to find that one partner is still screwing up and doing stupid things. The offended partner gets angry, says something like, “See, I knew you’d never change!” Then they pick up the phone Read More
Why I put grocery carts away and leave my skillet on the kitchen counter.
by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. When I go to the grocery store I almost always see a shopping cart left in the middle of a parking spot. If I can, I take it and use it or put it in a spot where it’s supposed to go. When I see someone abandoning their cart or leaving Read More
Doing couples therapy with a narcissist.
Just coming back from Los Angeles and Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy training, I am mulling over what I learned. One of the things Real specializes in is treating couples where one person is a narcissist. Every therapist knows how hard it is to work with individuals with a personality disorder, and the narcissist is Read More
Seeking answers for couples in Los Angeles: A blog about Relational Life Therapy
The best therapists are insatiable seekers of learning and growth, meaning that whatever our interests are, we learn all we can, continue to be curious and add new strategies and skills. Why? So we can have as many tools in our tool belt as possible to help our clients. In session I may suggest or Read More
Marriage Therapist Married Four Times Counts her Blessings
by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. I am a Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in helping people through the darkest days of their relationships, and I’m very passionate about it. I think that’s because I’ve been married four times and have faced many of the marital scenarios my clients face. Having been married four times is Read More
Too Many Know Nothing About Having Healthy Relationships
Very few adults know a thing about how to have healthy relationships, and I’m sick and tired of it. Seriously, too many people are lonely, miserable, insecure, fearful, depressed, anxious and low on self esteem and confidence, they’re have difficulty functioning, and you know what they’re doing? Dating, getting married, and having babies! Like a Read More
Bedtime Issues of the Sleeping Kind
Part of having a great marriage is being respectful of your spouses needs, wants and desires, and that means in the morning, afternoon, and of course, at bedtime. No one expects to have every single request fulfilled in marriage, but some things really do matter, and when it comes to bedtime, my clients have asked Read More