Those who are strong in crisis win in the end. Are you healthy enough to be strong and resilient when life gives you a hard time or when terrible things happen and you get knocked on your ass? Can you return to calmness after the initial shock, console yourself in despair during personal attacks or emotional injury, and control what you say and do?
When They Show a Therapist Who They Are, It’s Over. Oprah tells the story of how she complained about someone to her…
We could stop people from acting like jerks and treating us with disrespect if we valued ourselves enough to set appropriate boundaries. The way it ought to be is that bad behavior should never have a positive payoff. The only reason people can get away with less-than behavior is that we allow it.
Like beasts of burden, too many tolerate the intolerable and bestow benefits of love, friendship, and relationship on those who treat us terribly and with impunity. People complain in therapy sessions about the different ways people offend them with words and deeds, yet they repeatedly go back to the trough. What does a therapist do with that?
Ask what you can do for your relationship. If people knew how much time, effort, and giving a successful marriage takes, they…
Because of people like Disneylanders, life, at times, can be unnerving. Who is the real deal? Who can you really count on? Who is sincere and really means everything they say? It feels like a traffic jam of the mind to learn that some people pretend to enjoy your company — most of us prefer spending time with those who really do. Since Disneylanders hold their cards tightly to their chest, you can still spot them if you note their always pleasant demeanor, their resistance to hearing non-sugar-coated revelations, and their lack of reciprocity. They will never ever seek you out for any reason unless there is something in it for them. And there could always be something they want or need from you, so they’ll never burn the bridge.
Men say they don’t understand women and Dr. Becky Whetstone explains what they need to know. The question is, can they do it?
How single people can stop self-sabotage and get what they want. by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. For years I was a fool in…
Just about every adult knows that the characteristic described as empathy is a desirable trait. Without it, interactions between two people become…
by Becky Whtestone, Ph.D. Every Marriage and Family Therapist is familiar with Dr. John Gottman’s theory of the Sound Relationship House, the…
Note: Brittany Wong, editor of the Huffington Post divorce page asked me what are some commonly overlooked issues that affect relationships negatively,…
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