Some people can’t deal with your growth and changes. Singer Ricky Nelson was booed when he didn’t sing his oldies at a concert, but he had moved on. Then he wrote his greatest hit of all time about the experience. You can do that, too/ Graphic: Canva/BeckyWhetstone Living, growing, and evolving to be the best Read More
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Why People Who Say They Need Baby Steps Won’t Change.
Therapists are human; if they’re like me, they root for their clients. It’s sometimes painful to watch when they refuse to take action on the things that aren’t working in their lives. Graphic: Canva/Becky Whetstone Photo: Adobe Stock/Asier Maybe I’m going through an anger stage in my therapy career, but I’m sick and tired Read More
Understanding Marital Crimes and What to Do About Them.
Some marital crimes are worse than others. Some deserve no punishment; others deserve the death penalty. Graphic: Canva/Becky Whetstone Every married person commits marital crimes; the question is, how seriously should one weigh a partner’s mistake, and what can and should be done about them? Hopefully, we all believe in grace, and if punishment Read More
How to Get to Know the Different Voices in Your Head.
Getting to know the different parts of your personality is fascinating and can help you become healthier and happier. Graphic: Adobe Stock/agsandrew One of the things that has helped me understand people, personal relationships, and why we all do what we do is learning that we all have different parts within our personalities. I think Read More
Three Priorities that Create Happy, Successful, Families.
You must get your priorities straight for a happy life and a thriving family. Take this wise message to heart and transform your life with much less stress. Photo: Becky Whetstone/AI People don’t have their priorities straight, and it’s a sad fact that it’s messing up their lives. I imagine it’s like everything else Read More
Marriage is a lot harder than you thought, huh?
How to make marriage easier, and get what you want and need. They say love conquers all, but that’s not true. What conquers us all is emotional immaturity and not being our best selves. We must learn to be an adult in relationships, or marriage won’t work. Adobe Stock: Rudall30 A lot of people plan Read More
What is Success? Create that Definition for Yourself.
How to define it for yourself, and create a life of meaning The idea of being successful, and whether one is a success or failure, messes a lot of people up. It doesn’t have to be that way. Rethink what success is, create a flexible and flowing definition for yourself, change it as you need Read More
Hating or Loving Taylor Swift is a Litmus Test for Who We Are
The American family is on life support, star’s romance exposes the divide Two famous, influential, and beloved people who happen to lean left attract fearful haters and conspiracy theories. Its’ what;s wrong with America. Why can’t we just let people be who they are without demonizing them? Patrick Smith/Getty Images Our nation is falling apart. Read More
How to Get Your Love To Stop Hating Valentine’s Day
5 ways to make Valentine’s Day grinches happier. This man probably dislikes that he had to buy a gift and go to dinner with his love because of the pressure and obligation of Valentine’s Day. Let’s free our partner’s from it, and celebrate each other on other days. Photo illustration: Adobe stock/mtrlin That Read More
Stepfamily Drama: What To Do About Your Spouse’s Nasty Ex
Dealing with your spouse’s vindictive, toxic, former spouse. As the new member of the family, you can fuel or diffuse ex-spouse drama. Think about what’s best for the children, hold your fire, and get therapy. Image: Adobe Stock/Zimmytws If you read my work on divorce, you already know that I discourage individuals from considering Read More