We offer Several Options for individuals and couples who are struggling.
Marriage intensives: for couples stuck or in extreme distress. You have tired things, and the needle hasn’t moved that much. You need one last shot at making it work.
Marriage crisis management: someone thinks they want out, and both partners are distressed. It’s a very dangerous time for couples, and they need education, direction, and support to make it through without making matters worse.
Managed separation: You want to separate the right way, with a reason, purpose, and timeline.
(Almost) lawyer-free amicable divorce oversight. We oversee numerous amicable divorces, negotiating almost everything in the therapy room.
Positive co-parenting oversight – It’s tough co-parenting after divorce, and you can do it with a therapist/coach oversight.
Assistance for blending stepfamilies. Stepfamilies don’t fully understand the dicey dynamics and many easy pitfalls involved in blending families. Every family should learn about them and be professionally guided through them.
All of them begin with a Marriage Crisis Consultation
Let’s talk, and Dr. Becky Whetstone will tell you what might work for you.
Marriage Intensives.
The couple who signs up for a two-month or more marriage intensive is tired of being stuck. Whether the relationship is cold, numb, or too hot, you have tried a few things and don’t know what to do next. This is do-or-die therapy for those at or near the end of their rope.
Marriage Crisis Management.
Someone has said they think they want out, both spouses’ nervous systems fire, with one person wanting to fight, and the other to flee, and no one knows how to handle it – except for the marriage crisis manager who has studied the research and designed a method of helping. We have worked with thousands of couples in crisis. We will slow you down, help you stabilize, and then see what we need to do next. Do not manage your marriage crisis alone.
Managed Separation for Those Hoping to Reconcile
Couples often make huge mistakes when they try to separate on their own without a plan, purpose, or timeline. Often, they end up in marriage crisis limbo – not in, or out. Marriage crisis management prevents that altogether. We know the dynamics that create successful reconciliations, and we walk you through them with individual help and a good look under the marriage’s hood to see what’s possible. We offer intelligent oversight of your time apart, so we can move forward wisely.
Radically Positive Amicable Divorce & Co-parenting Plan.
Couples who decide to divorce often say they want it to be amicable, then hire family lawyers who will ensure it is not. When we realized this, we decided to create a new and better way – an amicable divorce guided by a marriage and family therapist, who has the best family outcomes in mind. Most everything is negotiated with the therapist, and what you can’t agree on is taken to collaborative lawyers, who will oversee a mediation for you and ensure the deal is fair and that all legal concerns are addressed. Collaborative lawyers do not go low. They believe in negotiation. We can do this without family lawyers.
Positive Co-parenting Oversight.
Having difficulties co-parenting with your ex? We will work as a team to negotiate better outcomes for your family. This is the most important factor for children in achieving the best possible outcome after divorce. If you are having difficulties, you need professional oversight.
Stepfamily Training and Oversight
75 Percent of second Marriages Don’t make it because of Blended Family Dynamics. With stepfamilies, knowledge is everything.
Our stance is that no one should even consider blending two families into one unless they have been thoroughly educated about the most common stepfamily dynamics and pitfalls. Knowing what works, what doesn’t, from the parents’ and the child’s point of view makes all the difference.
Good news! We offer Flexible Payment Plans.
We care about you, Your Family, and the Best Outcome for all.
I didn’t expect to spend my life helping people in marriage crises. I became aware of the need for it when I went through my own in 1993, with two small children whose futures were at stake. We looked and could find no one willing to help us, and in my opinion, the field of marriage therapy really let our family down, sending us away when we needed help the most.
A few years later, I went to graduate school and made it my business to learn all I could about marriages on the brink and what could be done to help them. What I learned was astounding, and the news was good – there were ways to help couples in crisis not make mistakes they will regret. I realized that if no one else was going to bring this information into the light and help couples in crisis, I would have to do it.
After five years of research and study in graduate school and many more post-graduate training sessions than I can count, 20 years later, I have assisted thousands of couples in crisis. Now, there is such a thing as marriage crisis management, and how I wish it had been available back in 1993.
Dr. Becky Whetstone
Marriage & Family Therapist