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Emergency Advice for Cheaters Who Just Got Caught
The first thing to understand is that when a human is in a life crisis, they are activated in the same way as any mammal who is sensing a threat to its life. Sure, you and your spouse aren’t being faced down by rabid dogs, but your brain thinks you are. It ascertains that the threat is serious, and sends you both into fight, flight or freeze. Most injured spouses go into fight mode, and it lasts much longer than average, so get ready. The cheaters can do all three, or only one or two, it just depends. What you need to know about this is that when couples are activated, they can’t make intelligent decisions, so no major decisions should be made at this time. What you need is to manage the crisis and not do more damage, and that’s where I come in.
It may be your fault that your life and relationships aren’t working.
It may be your fault that your life and relationships aren’t working. If your life isn’t working it is probably bet to look in the mirror rather than blame others. by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. Although we all do our best to live in a world of equality and hearing both sides of a story before making a Read More
(Don’t Hate me For Saying) You Need to Give More to Your Relationship
“This one thinks being dependent or having needs is weak,” she said, as she pushed herself forward on the couch, pointing toward her husband. “Because of this, I’m not supposed to ask him for anything. Is this really true? It just doesn’t make sense to me. If that’s what it is, then what is marriage?” Read More
Empathize today or lose your relationship tomorrow.
Just about every adult knows that the characteristic described as empathy is a desirable trait. Without it, interactions between two people become very problematic, as I see weekly in my marriage therapy practice, with at least 50 percent of the couples I work with, at some point, declaring, “(Insert partner’s name here) has NO empathy.” Read More
What’s reasonable to ask of your spouse? Sometimes a therapist must be the judge.
sometimes couples lock horns over issues and a therapist must choose what’s right.
What creates a relationship that will last the long-term.
by Becky Whtestone, Ph.D. Every Marriage and Family Therapist is familiar with Dr. John Gottman’s theory of the Sound Relationship House, the seven things that fortify a relationship and make a marriage strong. Gottman has done so much research on what makes great marriages and what predicts divorce, by studying, testing and interviewing thousands of Read More
Will My Husband Leave His Girlfriend and Fix Our Marriage Crisis?
In today’s world, sadly, cheating is common. More couples face marriage crisis, divorce therapy and marriage counseling now compared to 50 years ago. The statistics of infidelity in the year of 2016 alone shows that: In more than 33% of married couples, either one of the spouses or both admit to cheating. 22% of men Read More
Stepping stress-free through life, and the holidays, with step kids
Impudent step daughter, unreachable video gaming step son, and your spouse’s ex who doesn’t help the situation at all. No one told you how hard step parenting would be, but they should have. I always tell my clients considering marriage to a person who already has kids, it’s going to take a huge heart and Read More
Avoiding in law disaster – Navigating the holidays in your family’s territory.
One thing young American couples have in common is that in the first years of their marriage, they usually continue past Christmas traditions with each other’s families, often going back and forth from year-to-year or in one day if they live nearby, as the young bride and groom have not yet stepped into the stage Read More