Don’t Date Your Ex’s New Spouse’s Ex and Other Good Ideas.
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Don’t Date Your Ex’s New Spouse’s Ex and Other Good Ideas.

Some things in life are unspoken rules. I don’t know if people tell us not to do these things or if our common sense does. One of the rules is not to date your best friend’s ex unless you have spoken with them about it and gotten their blessing, or any close friend, for that matter. Others are don’t cut in line, don’t stand too close, don’t talk about your bodily functions, don’t talk about your life miseries and ailments on a first date, let people exit before you enter, don’t touch other people’s things, leave things as you found them, and on and on. We do these things because we are 8 billion people on one planet, and we have to all get along. Considering other people’s feelings and sensibilities before acting is a good and excellent thing and the best way for you to get along in this world, too.

The Divorce Stories We Tell Are Based in Fiction.
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The Divorce Stories We Tell Are Based in Fiction.

People will tell their stories however they will; we can do nothing about it. There is no need to defend, beg them not to, or go around trying to correct their verbal messes. Stop trying to create a perfect world where all injustices are solved, and everything is wrapped up in a bow. The only sane approach is to leave it alone, live your own life, and let it pass. Everyone but a Buddhist monk loves the drama of short and nasty divorce stories; it’s human nature, but the good news is that people who hear them will think about it for maybe fifteen seconds and never again. It simply is not the big deal you may think it is when someone speaks about you being a shrew or bastard from hell.

Why the Wimpy Guy is a Frequent Cause for Divorce.
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Why the Wimpy Guy is a Frequent Cause for Divorce.

If a wife has to be dominant in the relationship with a man, there will be sexual chemistry issues. If a passive man hands the family football over to her, she must use masculine energy to take charge, decide and plan things, and push for responsibility or fun. Staying in our masculine energy too much is draining to a woman. Our natural setpoint is feminine energy. She may like him and enjoy his company. Still, she has no desire to bang his bangles because she is forced to be in her male energy to get life done, and since her husband is a male, and there are n

People Will Self-Sabotage Despite Knowing They Shouldn’t.
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People Will Self-Sabotage Despite Knowing They Shouldn’t.

Like a moth to a flame, people who pay good money to learn about personal growth and get solid, well-grounded advice about their relationships will often ignore what they’re told and head straight into the fire of self sabotage, come what may. I get to watch this dynamic week and week out as I consult with people whose marriages are either hanging by a thread or in the beginning stages of an amicable divorce, which often will end up not being amicable once their parting spouse finds out what they’re up to. This is why it is sometimes painful to be me.

How to End the Insanity of the Nasty Divorce.

How to End the Insanity of the Nasty Divorce.

I am an advocate for the end of the nasty divorce. Especially when there are children involved. To me, it is one of the most ridiculous, wasteful, idiotic ways to end an unhappy marriage. It must stop, but I need you to help. In my plan for an amicable divorce, the marriage and family therapist plays the largest role, adversarial lawyers play no role, and collaborative lawyers play a less significant role. I have realized that people can’t or won’t go the amicable route without professional support. They need help and coaching along the way. I see it as cradling them through the process as they adjust to a new life as a single parent and find healthy ways to navigate that and all of the negative emotions they will undoubtedly encounter.

Don’t Say This When Your Spouse is Thinking About Divorce.

Don’t Say This When Your Spouse is Thinking About Divorce.

There are things one should never tell their miserably unhappy spouse. For example, if you want to infuriate a person, one of the best ways is to tell them that their concerns or emotions aren’t justified. I have breaking news for the world: feelings are organic and can’t be ordered on Amazon or concocted on demand. I can’t decide to be angry; it just happens. Feelings are how our soul speaks to us. Whatever feeling we have is actually a tap on our shoulder by our soul telling us, “Look at this and see what’s going on.”