One of the strangest things about becoming knowledgeable about psychological health and well-being is sitting by and listening to people in the media – and daily life – say things that you know will reinforce damaging themes and behaviors that people struggle with – things that keep them from becoming emotionally healthy. I have always Read More
codependence
How The World Screws Us Up
by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. A therapist’s life can be complicated. We go to school and intern for years, we study, write and read a zillion books and articles, we do research and walk away with a bunch of extremely helpful knowledge about how to be happier, healthier, and a better person and family member. The Read More
Family Relations in a Digital World
Family Relations in a Digital World Recently a couple who’ve been together four years and are now separated came in for an assessment, and the girlfriend had her arms crossed and was glaring at him out the corner of her eye. ”I’ll be thinking everything is wonderful in our relationship, and then he’ll send me a Read More
Therapy dropouts often flunk marriage and relationships, too.
One of the biggest mistakes couple’s make in therapy is to come to the first session, leave feeling validated and hopeful, only to find that one partner is still screwing up and doing stupid things. The offended partner gets angry, says something like, “See, I knew you’d never change!” Then they pick up the phone Read More
Seeking answers for couples in Los Angeles: A blog about Relational Life Therapy
The best therapists are insatiable seekers of learning and growth, meaning that whatever our interests are, we learn all we can, continue to be curious and add new strategies and skills. Why? So we can have as many tools in our tool belt as possible to help our clients. In session I may suggest or Read More