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What A Family Therapist Says the Royal Family Must do to Manage the Harry and Meghan Crisis.
If you are born a royal, you are raised, or brainwashed, to endure your role, and to see being royal as a duty and privilege bestowed on your family. But imagine the shock of the experience for those who were not raised that way, who are accustomed to being independent, and then enter a world where you are told to step in line and follow ancient, dysfunctional rules and customs and embrace a lifestyle that says some humans are more highly ranked than others, then suffer the scrutiny of all that being a difficult transition.
The Number One Reason Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Have Sex With You.
These are common marital intimacy and sexual apathy issues. If the subject is ever brought up, it will usually be one person blaming it on themselves and not the other, mainly because the subject of sex in marriage is so sensitive that most individuals tread very carefully so as not to hurt the other — “We aren’t having sex like we did, it must be me.” Is it true some things are better left unsaid? Sometimes, but if it weighs on your ability to enjoy the marriage, and resentment is seeping in, you must bring up your concerns in a loving, compassionate, respectful and diplomatic way.
Your family is nuts and you still visit for the holidays?
How to manage obnoxious, unkind, unfair and disrespectful kin. As the season for family get togethers approaches, numerous clients reach out to their therapists for an inoculation of protection, meant to shield them from the verbal and emotional land mines they will encounter when stepping into their extended family zones. A therapist can assure a Read More
Why the Words Selfish and Selfless Need to Removed from the English Language.
The American culture has dysfunctional beliefs and values that affect and injure us all, and two that have especially limited people’s ability to thrive are the toxin-packed adjectives selfless and selfish. Our society perpetuates the idea that individuals of highest character are those who are selfless, doing absolutely nothing for themselves, and the lowest form, the selfish, because they do. Another word that can go away while we’re at it, is deserve.
Emergency Advice for Cheaters Who Just Got Caught.
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Emergency Advice for Cheaters Who Just Got Caught
The first thing to understand is that when a human is in a life crisis, they are activated in the same way as any mammal who is sensing a threat to its life. Sure, you and your spouse aren’t being faced down by rabid dogs, but your brain thinks you are. It ascertains that the threat is serious, and sends you both into fight, flight or freeze. Most injured spouses go into fight mode, and it lasts much longer than average, so get ready. The cheaters can do all three, or only one or two, it just depends. What you need to know about this is that when couples are activated, they can’t make intelligent decisions, so no major decisions should be made at this time. What you need is to manage the crisis and not do more damage, and that’s where I come in.
Stop Bitching and Tell People What You Need
When you figure out what is driving your mood, then ask yourself what you need. When I do the inquiry with myself, the thing I need is often something I can do for myself. For example, if I am exhausted, I may need to clear some space for rest. The important thing is, once you figure out what it is, create an action plan to take care of it. If it has to do with something that my partner is doing or not doing, I find a good time to talk with him, and then proceed with the questions (see below). This process is called self-care, and it’s the most important thing there is. It is the front door to mental and emotional health.
Five ways our Childhood Screws Us Up
This is a brief overview of what happens to us that keeps us from growing up and being able to live and relate as mature adults. People don’t magically grow up and start being functional and mature, it is a skill that must be learned and practiced, and a lot of people who start doing that will need to do some level of trauma work. It is an endeavor that is worthwhile and life-changing.
Fear of losing the guy syndrome: Should I have sex if I am really not ready to?
In a budding relationship, women set the boundaries on what will and will not take place. Fear of losing the guy syndrome: Should I have sex if I am really not ready to? by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. A blog reader recently sent me this: “I read about your Rules for Romantic Self-Protection advice on your web site’s Read More