While being your authentic self and showing up as the real you in relationships is the only way to find true contentment, that does not mean we get carte blanche to be unfiltered, self-centered and obnoxious. Why? Because if you want to have a healthy and thriving relationship while also being you, you have to Read More
Will My Husband Leave His Girlfriend and Fix Our Marriage Crisis?
In today’s world, sadly, cheating is common. More couples face marriage crisis, divorce therapy and marriage counseling now compared to 50 years ago. The statistics of infidelity in the year of 2016 alone shows that: In more than 33% of married couples, either one of the spouses or both admit to cheating. 22% of men Read More
Things people say that make therapists cringe.
One of the strangest things about becoming knowledgeable about psychological health and well-being is sitting by and listening to people in the media – and daily life – say things that you know will reinforce damaging themes and behaviors that people struggle with – things that keep them from becoming emotionally healthy. I have always Read More
False accusations and workplace bullying: Another cultural problem that needs to fall away, a personal story.
I’m sure that any woman who has been sexually abused has felt a variety of emotions while watching the wall of silence and double standards of harassment tumble down recently – so now we can speak up about what has happened and you guys will believe us. Problem solved? Likely not. I believe all of Read More
Stepping stress-free through life, and the holidays, with step kids
Impudent step daughter, unreachable video gaming step son, and your spouse’s ex who doesn’t help the situation at all. No one told you how hard step parenting would be, but they should have. I always tell my clients considering marriage to a person who already has kids, it’s going to take a huge heart and Read More
Avoiding in law disaster – Navigating the holidays in your family’s territory.
One thing young American couples have in common is that in the first years of their marriage, they usually continue past Christmas traditions with each other’s families, often going back and forth from year-to-year or in one day if they live nearby, as the young bride and groom have not yet stepped into the stage Read More
Like many women, I have my own Harvey Weinstein-like stories.
Although the story of Harvey Weinstein misusing his power and influence to sexually harass and abuse women is shocking to many, the pattern of his obnoxious and unconscionable behavior is nothing new to our culture. Indeed, most women can name more than one time in their life when someone like Weinstein tried to pressure them Read More
How The World Screws Us Up
by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. A therapist’s life can be complicated. We go to school and intern for years, we study, write and read a zillion books and articles, we do research and walk away with a bunch of extremely helpful knowledge about how to be happier, healthier, and a better person and family member. The Read More
10 Big, Divorce-Proofing Talks To Have Before Getting Married
Huffington Post blogger Brittany Wong recently quoted Dr. Becky in an article focusing on the discussions couples need to have before getting married: It may not be the sexiest way to spend a Saturday night, but discussing big-ticket relationship issues like family planning, money and monogamy could be the best way for couples to stave Read More
Being relational: Few do it – everyone needs to know how.
Mike refused to speak to his wife Laura for weeks at a time, and by the time she dragged him to my office she was at her wit’s end: “What do I do if he refuses to speak to me?” They told me their issues, which weren’t that complicated or major, but could not be Read More