by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. When I go to the grocery store I almost always see a shopping cart left in the middle of a parking spot. If I can, I take it and use it or put it in a spot where it’s supposed to go. When I see someone abandoning their cart or leaving Read More
Doing couples therapy with a narcissist.
Just coming back from Los Angeles and Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy training, I am mulling over what I learned. One of the things Real specializes in is treating couples where one person is a narcissist. Every therapist knows how hard it is to work with individuals with a personality disorder, and the narcissist is Read More
Seeking answers for couples in Los Angeles: A blog about Relational Life Therapy
The best therapists are insatiable seekers of learning and growth, meaning that whatever our interests are, we learn all we can, continue to be curious and add new strategies and skills. Why? So we can have as many tools in our tool belt as possible to help our clients. In session I may suggest or Read More
Marriage Therapist Married Four Times Counts her Blessings
by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. I am a Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in helping people through the darkest days of their relationships, and I’m very passionate about it. I think that’s because I’ve been married four times and have faced many of the marital scenarios my clients face. Having been married four times is Read More
Too Many Know Nothing About Having Healthy Relationships
Very few adults know a thing about how to have healthy relationships, and I’m sick and tired of it. Seriously, too many people are lonely, miserable, insecure, fearful, depressed, anxious and low on self esteem and confidence, they’re have difficulty functioning, and you know what they’re doing? Dating, getting married, and having babies! Like a Read More
Bedtime Issues of the Sleeping Kind
Part of having a great marriage is being respectful of your spouses needs, wants and desires, and that means in the morning, afternoon, and of course, at bedtime. No one expects to have every single request fulfilled in marriage, but some things really do matter, and when it comes to bedtime, my clients have asked Read More
Prevent Future Divorce by Learning What Predicts It
Note: This blog post is dedicated to those who are currently married or going through marriage crisis and trying to figure out where they went wrong – the pain you are experiencing is all for naught if you don’t learn how to get it right – read on! As an experienced Marriage & Family Therapist, Read More
Frequent Cause of Divorce: The Wimpy Guy
A client recently called and asked for an urgent appointment alone. She and her husband have been seeing me primarily because of one potentially relationship-ending issue: “I’m sick and tired of being with a wimp!” she said. I understand. Unfortunately, women who complain about their man being a wimp is a common theme in my Read More
Is your marriage dying? Know in 3 minutes using this diagnostic tool.
One of my friends once said that every divorced person she knew could identify a moment in time when they knew their marriage was over; I was intrigued, checked around, and friends who’d divorced agreed; “My husband was always unmotivated, he’d lost his third job, it was many months later and he was barely looking Read More