To be heard, learn effective talking and listening skills. by Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. Sandra said that she took her husband’s lack of interest in her painting and artwork personally. “I just don’t get why he can’t care about what I care about,” she said. “I try to visit with him about it and his eyes Read More
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What Control is, and How to Stop it.
How to take your life back from a control freak. Note: To never miss a Doctor Becky blog, go to https://medium.com/@doctorbecky and press follow. One day long ago, someone decided it was the right thing to tell another person what to do, and in that moment a precedent was set that would make millions of Read More
Why the Words Selfish and Selfless Need to Removed from the English Language.
The American culture has dysfunctional beliefs and values that affect and injure us all, and two that have especially limited people’s ability to thrive are the toxin-packed adjectives selfless and selfish. Our society perpetuates the idea that individuals of highest character are those who are selfless, doing absolutely nothing for themselves, and the lowest form, the selfish, because they do. Another word that can go away while we’re at it, is deserve.
Things people say that make therapists cringe.
One of the strangest things about becoming knowledgeable about psychological health and well-being is sitting by and listening to people in the media – and daily life – say things that you know will reinforce damaging themes and behaviors that people struggle with – things that keep them from becoming emotionally healthy. I have always Read More