Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. You’ve been unhappy in your relationship for a long time. You can taste the idea of freedom, focusing on your own needs, a new start. How can you walk away and not cause much damage? You sit on the porch pondering what it would be like to leave after so many years Read More
Marriage & Marriage Crisis
If Your Spouse Wants Out, Do This ….
If your spouse wants to leave you there are things you can do that are intelligent and helpful. The important thing is not to make any mistakes.
Being relational: Few do it – everyone needs to know how.
Mike refused to speak to his wife Laura for weeks at a time, and by the time she dragged him to my office she was at her wit’s end: “What do I do if he refuses to speak to me?” They told me their issues, which weren’t that complicated or major, but could not be Read More
Divorce prevention alert: Know now what you’re going to wish you knew later.
When a spouse pleads with their mate to go to marriage counseling, you can bet they’re frustrated – trust me, people don’t just ask their partner to go to counseling if they’re only a little annoyed. Instead, when your partner says, ‘Hey, can we go to marriage counseling?’ it’s pretty indicative that they’ve already made Read More
Has your wife has checked out of your marriage?
Roger is 45 and called to make an appointment. “My wife has changed overnight,” he says. “And she won’t come in to therapy. Help me, what should I do?” As an experienced marriage therapist, I’m thinking, “She might be having an affair,” and when I ask the husband if she is, he says, “I really Read More
Doing couples therapy with a narcissist.
Just coming back from Los Angeles and Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy training, I am mulling over what I learned. One of the things Real specializes in is treating couples where one person is a narcissist. Every therapist knows how hard it is to work with individuals with a personality disorder, and the narcissist is Read More
Prevent Future Divorce by Learning What Predicts It
Note: This blog post is dedicated to those who are currently married or going through marriage crisis and trying to figure out where they went wrong – the pain you are experiencing is all for naught if you don’t learn how to get it right – read on! As an experienced Marriage & Family Therapist, Read More
Is your marriage dying? Know in 3 minutes using this diagnostic tool.
One of my friends once said that every divorced person she knew could identify a moment in time when they knew their marriage was over; I was intrigued, checked around, and friends who’d divorced agreed; “My husband was always unmotivated, he’d lost his third job, it was many months later and he was barely looking Read More