A one-sided relationship feels like you’re loving on a mannequin. It’s hard to wake them up and get them to be proactive in the relationship, but it is possible. Photo: Adobe Stock: Lightfield Studios. When you marry someone you wholeheartedly adore, a person you love doing things for and love with all your heart, who Read More
Why Your Relationship Will Never Be 50/50.
Equality diehards don’t do well in marriage and relationships. Stop expecting problems in the marriage to be seen as 50–50, and focus on your part in it. Quibbling over who is most right or wrong is a fool’s game. Graphic: Adobestock/Magann Are problems in marriage always 50 percent your fault and 50 percent your Read More
A Family Therapist’s Advice for the British Royals Drama.
The universe is screaming that it’s time for the British royal family to show a more authentic, compassion-filled side to the world or risk becoming an insignificant caricature of yourselves. Graphic: Canva/Becky Whetstone Few would argue that the British royal family is one of many dysfunctional families worldwide. What is a dysfunctional family? Let’s put Read More
Hey Guys, It’s Not About Leaving the Toilet Seat Up.
Almost every person who is a toilet user and has had a man around their home knows that the position he leaves the toilet lid or seat after a visit to the bathroom can quickly become an issue. Based on what my therapy clients say, most people would prefer to walk into the bathroom and Read More
The Downside of Being Emotionally Healthy.
Some people can’t deal with your growth and changes. Singer Ricky Nelson was booed when he didn’t sing his oldies at a concert, but he had moved on. Then he wrote his greatest hit of all time about the experience. You can do that, too/ Graphic: Canva/BeckyWhetstone Living, growing, and evolving to be the best Read More
Why People Who Say They Need Baby Steps Won’t Change.
Therapists are human; if they’re like me, they root for their clients. It’s sometimes painful to watch when they refuse to take action on the things that aren’t working in their lives. Graphic: Canva/Becky Whetstone Photo: Adobe Stock/Asier Maybe I’m going through an anger stage in my therapy career, but I’m sick and tired Read More
Understanding Marital Crimes and What to Do About Them.
Some marital crimes are worse than others. Some deserve no punishment; others deserve the death penalty. Graphic: Canva/Becky Whetstone Every married person commits marital crimes; the question is, how seriously should one weigh a partner’s mistake, and what can and should be done about them? Hopefully, we all believe in grace, and if punishment Read More
How to Get to Know the Different Voices in Your Head.
Getting to know the different parts of your personality is fascinating and can help you become healthier and happier. Graphic: Adobe Stock/agsandrew One of the things that has helped me understand people, personal relationships, and why we all do what we do is learning that we all have different parts within our personalities. I think Read More
Three Priorities that Create Happy, Successful, Families.
You must get your priorities straight for a happy life and a thriving family. Take this wise message to heart and transform your life with much less stress. Photo: Becky Whetstone/AI People don’t have their priorities straight, and it’s a sad fact that it’s messing up their lives. I imagine it’s like everything else Read More
Marriage is a lot harder than you thought, huh?
How to make marriage easier, and get what you want and need. They say love conquers all, but that’s not true. What conquers us all is emotional immaturity and not being our best selves. We must learn to be an adult in relationships, or marriage won’t work. Adobe Stock: Rudall30 A lot of people plan Read More